Be Grateful for The Power of Language
Language is the fabric of reality. You live today, in what you spoke yesterday. If people understood this, they would be more careful with what comes out of their mouth. The old saying 'Talk is cheap' is valid for so many. Words don't really matter to most people. We talk as if it's just words.
But consider that our words were designing the future into which we are stepping as our next experience of life. What if what we say, actually is creating our future. Perhaps, if we looked at it that way, then we might be careful opening our mouths and take our words more seriously.
We experience our world through our interpretations. Our interpretations show up in language. Language is the access to transforming the current interpreted reality into a newly designed future with new possibilities for new actions and better results.
I remember learning this when I was a Sophomore in High School. Once, when I saw the Pep Club President lead a school rally, I told myself, "When I'm a Senior, I'm going to be the Pep Club President! That's my dream." To my joy, in my Senior year, I found myself leading the Pep Rally as the new Pep Club President.
Was that magic? Or does language have something to do with creating reality? I choose to think it does. The power of sound, language and emotion have been proven. It's an ancient science!
Here's the thing. People say the worst things about who they are and where they are headed, such as: "I can't do this!" or "I'm such a loser!" "I don't think this is going to work out the way I want." or commonly, "I can't.... (fill in your personal blank!)."
I am reminding you that we are equipped with the power to create our future and all that we desire, consciously. The primary ingredient in that creation is through the language we think and speak.
A 'declaration' is a kind of speech; an action that brings a possibility into existence.
We live in a world where all is possible. The way we master that possibility lives in our imagination. When we declare something in language – when we speak as if "This is so!", then that creates a 'possibility'.
As a rule, human beings automatically act into the possibilities they create, because we view our circumstances through the veil of the possibility that we create through language.
Next, we go about finding evidence to corroborate what we created as a possibility. We start with 'language', and then act that possibility into existence in the material world. Within time, we are living in a real future we had earlier created as just a possibility.
Be careful with your language. Be aware of what you think. Be mindful of what you say. Pretend you are creating your future with your actual thoughts and words, because you are. That should wake you up!
Life is like a board game made up of the 'moves' we make. Our moves are in our language. There are 'distinctions' in language, so it behoves you to know and understand these distinctions.
Just as you may have a hammer and a saw in your tool kit, you also have 'tools' (moves in the game) in language. Each distinction in language has a different job to do, just like a hammer and a saw.
Let's go deeper into this because if you are aware of how to make the right moves, you have an advantage over most of the people on the planet.
So when we communicate with each other, there are several language 'distinctions' - Requests, Offers and Promises. These 'distinctions' generate action; in other words, your board game moves!
If you want a particular outcome to happen, and all of us do, then make a Request, an Offer or a Promise. If there is no action happening as a result of that communication, then there are no requests, offers or promises on the table. It's important to know that a request, offer or promise must be made if you want action to happen. If you think that just your opinions are going to produce action, then you are in trouble.
Assessments (opinions) create Identities.
People exist in this world in two ways – who they truly are (which only they know), and as an 'Identity' – as in, the way they show up for others. Your identity exists in the assessments that others have of you. If you assess that I am lazy, then that is my identity (for you) and how I show up (for you).
Assessments are based on interpretations - the meaning we attribute to actions we see in the world.
Say we're sitting together, you and I. If you frown, I might say to myself, "She is unhappy". Of course, I can't know if you are unhappy. You might actually be very happy but have a headache, or even be confused about something. In doing this, I am adding my own meaning to the action you are taking (a frown). Once I make my assessment (based on the action I see you take), then that is who you are to me – that is the 'Identity' that shows up for me.
We all operate and collaborate in a subjective world, in which the identity of the person is not the REAL person. So it is essential to know that assessments are forming the Identities – caused by our interpretations, which may be accurate - or not.
The 'distinction' that creates a possibility is called a 'declaration'. It is when you say something as if it were so. The following statements are all common 'declarations' that many of us make: 'I can't do this'. 'This will be the death of me'. 'I'm going to win this'.
And 'possibility' is how a future exists. All futures exist as a possibility. So when you create a possibility, you are actually creating a future. Then you act into it... and pretty soon it is real. Next, you are living in it. As I said, you live today in the reality you spoke of last year.
Dreams are a form of language. You are thinking and feeling and imagining your dreams, and that is language. Your dreaming is actually the first step in creating your future. So when you take your 'thinking' kind of language, and make it even more real as a stated word that you express out loud, then you are making that possibility even more probable as a future in which you will eventually live.
So for sure, it is essential to understand that 'declarations' create possibilities. Since a future exists as a possibility, then it would serve us to know that declaring something is the foundation of a future in which we might live someday.
Now, we've looked at the dynamics, let's build in the astonishing power of gratitude. When we declare things for which we are grateful, then we are creating possibilities for more of the same:
"I am so grateful that I'm healthy".
"I am so grateful I have friends that love me".
"I am so grateful I have this lesson in my life, by which I can learn and grow".
Gratitude is the most powerful of all declarations, because it not only is creating a possibility for a new future, but being grateful keeps us in the present time - the here and now.
Staying in a state of gratitude keeps us from blaming others or worrying about our complaints and trauma. Gratitude is a super-powerful force that keeps us on the path of expansion, contribution, and love.
Gratitude keeps our vibration at a high level. Since we attract opportunities and circumstances of the same vibration as the vibration at which we operate, then gratitude keeps us in the force field of attracting health, wealth, happiness, and good fortune.
Watch your language. Stay in gratitude. Talk is not cheap. It is the fabric of reality, and as you speak, so shall you create your own future.
One of THE MOST PROLIFIC influencers on the who’s who of the most innovative minds in thought leadership in the last 40 years, Marcia Martin is CEO of Marcia Martin Productions, LLC, an executive training firm specializing in transformational leadership training and communication arts technology.
She is renowned as one of the top transformational trainers and executive and life coaches worldwide in the arenas of championship performance, relationship coaching, communication mastery, and public speaking; and she has personally trained over 300,000 individuals and corporate executives around the globe to be more effective human beings.
Dame Marcia (knighted in 2008) has provided leadership training in Europe, South America, Africa, Canada, Mexico, Asia and the USA; her clients include Capital One, McCain Foods, Hard Rock International, Warner Bros., InterContinental Hotels, Danone, and Evian Water, among others.
Marcia was personally mentored by innovative academic thinkers Buckminster Fuller, Warren Bennis, and Werner Erhard in the art and technology of Leadership, Self-Transformation and Human Development; she was Vice President and a Founding Member of est (Erhard Seminars Training), now known as Landmark Forum where she was instrumental in taking the company from inception to a graduate base of millions within a ten-year period.
She has consulted, trained or coached some of the best-known thought leaders and authors of our time including Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Lynne Twist, T. Harv Ecker, Raymond Aaron, Doria (DC) Cordova, and Robert T. Kiyosaki; and she was the Co-Creator of the Transformational Leadership Council (TLC) serving as Vice President, Managing Director, and Program/Production Manager from 2004 inception until 2012.
